Hawthorne Heights drummer Eron Bucciarelli checked in with fans on the Dayton, Ohio emo band’s blog at MySpace (@hawthorneheights) on Sunday (December 23), opening up about the holiday season and trying to celebrate it after the death of guitarist Casey Calvert on November 24th. Bucciarelli writes:
Happy Holidays everyone! This is not your typical holiday greeting (and its quite long as well). I’ve had so much on my mind lately that I’ve been writing and re-writing this blog for several weeks now. No matter how long I stare at my computer screen, I just can’t seem to get it right. With the holiday season upon us, everything seemed to fall into place…and it gave me an incentive to get this together once and for all.
Religious beliefs and commercialism aside, the holidays are for spending time with family and friends. This year we will sadly spend it without one of our closest friends for the first time ever. Most people don’t truly understand this, but when you’re in a band its like being married to four other individuals. Every aspect of your life is intertwined and almost symbiotic with the other members. We spent nearly every day for five years with Casey, more time than we spend with our own family and loved ones. He was our brother in every sense of the word and perhaps the toughest loss I’ve personally ever experienced. Casey was honestly, without any hyperbole, the most unique and hilarious person I’ve ever met and I’ll never forget him because of that. Everything he did brought a smile to my face (and others) even when it wasn’t intended, that’s just how he was.
No one should ever have to go through losing anyone prematurely, but sadly, it happens and its something we’ve had to deal with on more than one occasion. It hasn’t been easy, but witnessing people come together, putting aside their differences, sharing their stories and uniting under their love of Casey has been extremely uplifting. I’ve cried and laughed at all of the stories and in every instance I can remember the exact situation (or similar one) being described in near vivid detail. Its unfortunate that it takes a tragedy to put everything into perspective and even more unfortunate that we let trivial matters run our daily lives to the extent that we forget how precious and fragile life really is.
On behalf of our whole band, I want to send a big thank you to all of our loved ones, families, friends, fans, management, To Write Love On Her Arms, absolutepunk.net and anyone I may have forgotten for being so supportive while we deal with our loss and figure everything out in the wake. To say we’re grateful for everything we’ve accomplished up until this point would be an understatement. We’ve been able to live out our dreams and while our journey hasn’t always been sunshine and roses, we’ve been fortunate enough to experience a little bit of true happiness in our lives and most importantly, share it with all of you.
We don’t want a pity party…that’s not the point of all this…I think the lesson we’ve learned, and hopefully you can also take from this, is to never take anything or anyone for granted. Be thankful for everything you have in life and never miss the opportunity to tell those around you that you love them. Do that which makes YOU happy as life is too short and too unpredictable to slave away doing something you hate. Enjoy the holidays (and every day) as if they were your last!
PS: “War is over…if you want it!”